Love yourself…

Everyone knows that we ought to be good to each other. But all of us also knows that not everybody practices that. Everything that I will say on this post has already been said many many times before, but I feel the need to say it again. I feel like someone somewhere needs to hear this message again. So here it is.

Be good to everybody. That includes yourself. Forgive those who violated you, so you can also forgive yourself. Forgive them not for their sake, but for your sake. Forgive them for your own healing. It’s okay. You are okay. Everything will turn out just fine.

Nowadays, I see a lot of mean people. The younger generations are surprisingly disrespectful. I see a lot of selfishness and greed. I often ask myself how come they don’t appreciate what they have? Where did this feeling of entitlement came from? How did it started in the first place?

Every time I see someone being mean to somebody, I automatically feel bad for the aggressor, not the victim. What kind of hatred does this person have for him or her to behave that way towards the other person? I feel bad for that person. You see, being mean to somebody is a manifestation of your own inequity. It tells me that you are unhappy. It shows lack of love and peace in your life. It tells me that deep inside you, you don’t like yourself.

Someone may say I’m wrong. It’s okay. I have been wrong many times. But if someone is to really analyze their life and the reasoning behind their behavior, they will find that what I said is true. Your actions say a lot about you. And like what I have said, this have been said many times before. I am just merely repeating it.

Truth hurts. It is only when you accept it that you start to heal. When you start to heal, the pain goes away. And you will have peace within yourself. And then it’s the start of a new beginning. The beginning of a new you.

So, love yourself. Have a good intention. Having a good intention is very very healthy. It takes away stress. When you don’t have stress, your health starts to turn around. Your outlook in life changes in a positive way. You will feel better. Your life will be better.

Ask yourself on a daily basis, who can I help today? It could be anybody. It could even be yourself. And it doesn’t have to be a grandiose act. It’s actually the simplest things. Every single small act of kindness makes a huge difference and we just don’t realize that. Just imagine what will happen when you accumulate a lot of small simple good deeds. It’s going to be great.

If you are feeling down because life sometimes can be challenging sometimes, it’s okay. If you need to cry, cry it out loud. Don’t stop it. Let the tears flow freely. I strongly believe that when you cry, you are releasing the emotional toxins in your body. So, go ahead and free yourself of those emotional toxins. It’s going to be okay. But here’s the key, do not dwell on it. Once you release it, that’s it. Don’t ever dwell on that emotion. Release it all so you can move on. Forgive and continue to love no matter what.

Love yourself. If you do, it will show. Then you will attract love.

Be kind and giving. Giving is so much more rewarding than receiving. When you give without the intention of receiving anything in return, that is when it feels good. You will feel great. It’s actually addicting. You might say you don’t have much to give. It’s okay. Giving doesn’t always have to be a material things. It could be a simple act of extending your help to a coworker, a friend, or even a stranger.

It is okay to receive as well. But receive with gratitude and appreciation. Not with selfishness or with feeling of entitlement. That’s all for now.

 

Much love,

Karen

 

 

Just love yourself…

I’m pretty sure that everyone of us heard that we need to love ourselves, but often times, it’s quite difficult for most of us. A lot of us are not happy with ourselves. We are not happy with our bodies. We don’t like our shapes. We hate our pains and sufferings. We are not content with our lives. There’s always something about us that we don’t like. This is pretty common nowadays. Some of you would disagree with me, and say that you are pretty happy and content,  and that’s great. I’m happy for you. In fact, I wish everyone would be like you and me who are happy with our lives.

For those of you who agree with me about not being happy and not being content with ourselves, I have a very simple message for you and this is very important. I need you to start loving yourself right now. Let me explain why.

As a healthcare provider (or more like a sick-care provider), I see a lot of people who are suffering with different kinds of health conditions. I see people taking so many medicines it blows my mind. I see people who has tubes in their belly, who can’t talk, who gets insulin shots all the time, who can’t have a natural bowel movements, who has wounds, who can’t walk, who are totally dependent on others, etc. It’s very very pitiful. It breaks my heart to see people suffer like this. This is not how life is supposed to be lived. This is not life at all.

Seeing people suffer like this makes me appreciate my life even more. Even though I am not happy that they are suffering, I am grateful that they are teaching me a lesson. I need to love myself and take care of myself. I need to appreciate my health and my body because I don’t have what they have. I don’t plan on having what they have. I plan on taking great care of my body and treating it with love and respect.

Someone might ask, how do we exactly love and respect our body? It sounds simple but it’s complicated and hard to do sometimes. When I say we need to love and respect our body, I mean that we need to accept it for what it is. Do you think you’re overweight? So what? You need to love those “love handles” that you have because if you don’t, who will? Right?

Do you think you’re not attractive? Who says that? Let me tell  you my own toxic belief about myself. When I was in the Philippines, I never thought I was attractive because I always heard that I was ugly. As a result, I suffered from low self-esteem and inferiority complex. I hated myself. I always wanted something that other people have because I thought that I wasn’t good enough.

Well guess what? I was totally wrong. I am pretty damn gorgeous! And I love myself and I love my body now! I love everything about me. And I know it sounds so narcissistic but this is true. I am not going to apologize about this at all. I am gorgeous and I will say it again. I am gorgeous. I’m not repeating this over and over for it to become my truth. It is the truth. I truly believe it now. Sometimes when you think you are ugly, you just have to move to a different country to where you would look exotic. Thank God I did.

I love my body. I love how it looks. I love my complexion. I love me. And I will continue to respect my body by listening to it. I will continue to respect my body by giving it what it needs. I will continue to nourish my body by giving it the right food, the kind that I enjoy. I will continue to nourish it by giving it enough sleep. I will continue to nourish my body by doing the exercise and movements that I enjoy. I will continue to listen to music and dance and sing.

I thank my body for constantly wanting to heal myself even though I sometimes neglect it. I thank my body for always sending signals and messages to me whenever I over exert myself. I thank my body for giving me signs that I am stressing out and I need to stop. I thank my body for withholding my energy because I already worked so hard. I thank my body for telling me to stop and rest.

It is also very important that we forgive ourselves. Forgiveness is very healing, not just to your emotional and mental health, but also to your physical body. So, forgive yourself if you are not able to accomplish everything in your to-do list. In fact, throw away that toxic to-do list. It only creates stress to yourself. Yes, it helps organize things sometimes. But nowadays, we tend to put too many things on our to-do list that it becomes a burden. It’s toxic and not healthy.

Forgive yourself for hating yourself. This is very important. Once you accomplish this, healing will start. Look at yourself in the mirror and apologize to yourself. Apologize to yourself for not appreciating yourself, for over working yourself, for not listening to it’s cues and messages. It’s even okay to hug yourself. Let go of the hate and negative feelings that you are keeping in your body no matter what it is. Your body don’t need it. You don’t want it.

Start loving yourself in anyway you can. It’s a game changer. Love yourself for you to radiate love.

I love myself and all of you.

 

Always,

Karen

 

 

Weight loss…

I feel like I need to write an article about this because everywhere I go, I always hear comments about my weight. At this point in my life, no one would think that I used to be overweight. Well, I have to admit, I got pregnant and that was my excuse. I was eating for two adults because of the very common belief that when you are pregnant, you have to eat for 2 people.

Whoever spread that belief, they are totally wrong! It’s not healthy for the mother and for the baby. When you are pregnant, you need to eat a few more high quality nutrient dense foods. You don’t have to eat for two adults with every meal. Now, why do I keep saying two adults? Because in my mind, when they say “eat for two people,” I didn’t think that I need to eat for me and a tiny little baby. I thought I needed to eat for me and another me.

When I first heard about eating for 2 people, my gut feeling told me it doesn’t make sense. But I didn’t question it. All I heard from the doctor was that I can eat basically whatever I want, however much I want. And I was excited about it because I can finally satisfy my food cravings. I finally have an excuse to eat and not be guilty about it. I was also thinking it’ll be help the growing baby in my body.

During my pregnancy, I developed gestational diabetes. I was at risk for having a big baby so therefore, we had to do a scheduled c-section. I thought that all the weight I was carrying was just the baby and will go away once I deliver him. To my dismay, he was only 6 lbs 14 oz. All the weight was mine. Isn’t that frustrating?

I also thought that after I had the baby, all the weight will go away naturally. Not true. I heard that breastfeeding can help you lose weight so I breastfed to 2.5 years. Breastfeeding did help some, but not much.

At that point in my life, I just had to tell myself that this is what a mother should look like therefore, I need to just accept it and stop worrying about it. But I was depressed. I didn’t like how that person looked  every time I look in the mirror. I didn’t like the back pain and knee pain I was experiencing due to having excess weight. Something has got to change.

I started skipping meals and starving myself. Only to binge eat in the next few hours. I tried exercising which didn’t work. I tried drinking lots of water and I couldn’t stand it because I would get so weak and had tremors. I was lost and didn’t know what to do.

I later learned about how eating nutritious foods and eliminating bad foods can positively influence your weight. So I did studied it and followed it. I ate lots of fruits and vegetables. I eliminated fats, salt, bread and rice. And I finally started seeing results. I was eating lots of salads and drinking lots of green smoothies and was losing 1 to 1.5 lbs every day. Within 3 months, I lost a bunch of weight and was happy about it.

But I was also depressed at the same time. Why is that? Because the food I was eating was actually too bland for me. I wasn’t enjoying it. I was just eating it because I want to lose weight. And I like salt and savory food therefore it was very challenging for me. I would question myself out of frustration. Why am I doing this? Then, I would have episodes of binge eating and I would resolve to starving myself again because I was so scared I would gain the weight back.

I became obsessed and scared of gaining weight. I would weigh myself once a day everyday. It would frustrate me to see that I gained a pound or two from the food I have eaten the previous day. In short, I was imprisoned by my own toxic belief that I have to look a certain way or weigh a certain pounds for me to be acceptable to others.

During my journey to health, I learned so many valuable things about how to become healthy and immune to diseases. I tried different things that makes me keep the weight off. And I must warn you that some nutritional beliefs out there can be very confusing and contradicting. I changed from one eating lifestyle to another as I was learning. Until I found the missing link, the very thing that made sense to me. The final thing that shed another 15 lbs that was holding on to me. And now, no matter how much I eat, I don’t gain weight. I stay happy and stress-free.

I know you want to find out how I did it and I am very much willing to share it. The only thing is I can only help you if want to help yourself. So, for those of you who are ready for a change, I am here for you. All you have to do is contact me, leave me a comment, or email me at contact@healthnutdiva.live and we can set up a free consultation. Thank you and have a great day.

 

Much love,

Karen

 

P.S.

By the way, this is what I used to look like.

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The benefits of being happy…

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Some people may not know it but there are a lot of benefits of being happy. Some people may think that this is non-scientific, therefore not important or not true. Regardless whether it’s scientific or not, we cannot deny that just being happy is already beneficial. When you’re happy, you feel good, right?

When you are happy, it influences your mood and your decision making. Most of the time, you make the right decision when you are in a good mood. Obviously, you are not stressed when you are happy. Therefore, your cortisol level goes low. And when your cortisol level is low, you don’t hold on to fat.

I truly believe that stress is a killer. Of course, everybody knows this. When you’re stressed, you gain weight, you look old, you feel old, your immune system goes down, you get sick, your skin breaks out, you feel ugly. Let’s face it, it’s true. I know all these because I have been there. I had sleepless nights because I couldn’t stop worrying about things. I was unhappy. I was depressed. And I had to make a decision.

So, I decided with the help from my mentor, to eliminate what was causing my stress. That was my job. So I quit my job. And guess what? I instantly felt that something really heavy have been lifted off of my shoulder. I instantly felt great. I was relieved. I started being happy. I let go and told myself not to feel guilty about that decision.

What I learned from that experience is that I just need to prioritize my happiness and my family. My happiness and my family is much more important that a job that is available. I learned through meditation that I am good enough, therefore, I deserve something better than that job that I let go. I will no longer settle for anything less. I deserve great things in life because I know I contribute good things. And yes I say this with full conviction 🙂 I trust God. I trust life. I will be alright.

You see, when you are happy, you sleep better. When you sleep better, your mind becomes sharper and clearer, helping you make good decisions. When you are happy, everything feels okay. And when you feel good about yourself, you become attractive to others, and believe it or not, to opportunities as well. I don’t understand how it happens, but there’s something about being positive that creates a positive environment for you. Either way, it’s all good. I am not going to question it. I am just going to enjoy it.

So, be happy. Smile even when it’s hard. Believe me, it helps. Start by appreciating what you have no matter how little. You may not realize it, but there are always people who are less fortunate than you. You probably don’t know what being poor means until you go visit a third world country.

Be thankful that you are alive. Who knows when our lives are going to end. You must learn how to live life to the fullest. That way you won’t have regrets in the future. Do you really want to live life doing something you don’t want to do? Like a job you hate? I refuse to do that. And I think you do too.

So, the next time you get up in the morning, pray. Then look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you are good enough. Do that and make a difference to yourself and in the lives of others 🙂

 

Much love,

Karen

The beauty of time…

IMG_20160223_180640101We all have been given the same amount of time each day, each week, each month, and so on. But why is it that most of us feels like we don’t have enough time? We feel like we are all in a hurry to finish something. We stress out about deadlines. We have got to do this or do that, otherwise… You know what I mean.

The truth is, the world will still be round even if we take our time. Things will still be the same, if not better, if we simply take our time and slow down. Now, to some people, this may sound absurd, especially to those who are always in a hurry to get things done. I can relate to it, because I was like that too.

When I first heard that we are more productive when we do less or when we take things slowly, my initial reaction was “what?” How could that be? It turns out that it actually has a scientific proof to that. But I am not going to talk about the science behind it. Everybody can sure do our own research. I will just share what I myself have experienced.

I am a nurse and has worked in different fields of nursing. The nature of a nurse’s job is very stressful. As a nurse, you are always struggling to give medications and treatments on time. You have documentations to finish before the end of your 12-hour shift. You take a break when you can, that is if you get lucky. You almost always get interrupted by something even when you’re on break. That’s stressful. Then you get home tired and hungry and grumpy. And then you hurry up to take care of household stuff and family because you have to do this over again tomorrow.

Every time these things happen to me due to my job, it depresses me. I become so emotionally charged. I cry easily. I interpret things negatively. I overeat. I blame myself. My skin breaks out. My mouth develops canker sores. I don’t like it at all.

So, I decided to go back to that wisdom that I heard about slowing down. It doesn’t mean slowing down when it comes to my patient’s needs because I need to act fast when it’s an emergency. I took slowing things down as stop working too much. Focus on my life and my family. Slow down on trying to make more money. As we all know, money is not everything.

It wasn’t easy at first. The anxiety of how I am going to support myself and my son with working less was there. I have so many bills that needs to be paid. How am I going to do this by working less? I almost didn’t believe that it’s possible. But it is.

I quit my job at the facility that was overworking me and creating me all kinds of stress, physical and emotional. I focused on working for my wonderful agency wherein I can create my own schedule and work when I want to. And most especially, rest when I need to.

The time off that I obtained when I quit my job enabled me to do that things that were stressing me out while I was working. I slowly worked on getting my house in order. I focused on taking care of my son. I focused on taking care of myself. I started meditating. I s-l-o-w-e-d d-o-w-n…

And you know what happened next?

  • I got restful sleep.
  • My skin cleared up.
  • My mind cleared up.
  • I stopped crying.
  • My canker sores healed up quickly.
  • My son is happier.
  • I became happier.
  • I stopped overeating.
  • My neck and shoulder pain started going away.
  • I started looking like a diva again 🙂

And so much more. That is the beauty of taking time. And it’s true. When I started taking things slowly and my mental health started improving, opportunities started opening up. Great ideas came up. And now I have goals and vision for myself and my family. I now know what I truly want to do in my life. It is clear now what my purpose is in this world.

Thanks to that nugget of wisdom that I heard from my best friend, and from the book of Marc David. I learned so much from them. I encouraged everyone who reads this to take your time and don’t feel guilty about it. Life will still go on no matter what. The world will still be round…:)

 

Much love,

Karen

About Me

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I am a nurse by profession but I am very interested in the field of alternative, holistic, integrative, and functional medicine. I am a big fan of healing the body with high quality food and nutrition. I strongly believe that stress has a great impact on overall health. I know that exercise is very beneficial but I have to admit that I don’t exercise that much. I am trying to do more meditation and relaxation to continuously improve my overall health.

I have been working on improving my health for years now. I am constantly learning and trying new things and has no plan on stopping. I have been using my body as a laboratory! I have tried all kinds of things. You name it. I am that adventurous. I am not scared at all especially when it comes to health. Some things worked for me and some did not. And this is why I want to share it with you.

I know that everybody is different. I know that what worked for me may not work for you. But I am constantly learning and I know I can help you in one way or another. I believe that everyone has a mastery in their own respective field. Therefore, we can always learn from different people as well as different things.

So if you are ready for a change and improve your health, if you are tired of the excess weight you are carrying, if you are too tired of being tired, then go make the decision now. Set up a consultation with me and let’s see what we can do. Hope to hear from you soon!

Sincerely,

Karen